58% of us feel that the subject of death is the ‘elephant in the room’.
Understandably, many people don’t like to talk about death and dying. However broaching this sensitive topic can be reassuring … especially for someone who wants to discuss their preferences for their own funeral.
Half of us (50%) haven’t discussed our funeral wishes with anyone at all. No one knows what we would like for our own funeral. Only 17% of people have discussed their funeral wishes in any detail. One reason for the lack of discussion may be that funerals have been planned; the arrangements are in place. However only 9% of us have planned our own funeral fully … 68% have made no plans at all. (Funeral Trends Media Report 2024).
While relatively few of us have discussed death and what we would like for our own funeral, many people have a clear preference about the type of funeral they would like. 50% of people would prefer to be cremated, with 27% opting for a cremation.
Making Time to Talk
Broaching the subject of death is sensitive. Some people find it reassuring; however, the same number of people are frightened by talking about dying.
When arranging a time to talk about death – with the person who is dying or with loved ones – face-to-face conversations are best. Choose somewhere private and without distractions (no phones or televisions, for example).
Whether you are discussing your own death or a loved one’s, it can help to prepare and rehearse what you’d like to say. Think of any questions ahead of the discussion and make notes to remind you of the answers and other key points.
We are all unique individuals and have our own responses to discussing sensitive topics. Some of us are more emotional than others or more tactile, for example. Pause during your conversation to allow people to take in what’s being said, gather their thoughts and think of any questions. Important points may need to be repeated.
When discussing someone’s wishes, being respectful, attentive and calm is important (but it’s ok to cry and this may help others to embrace their emotions too). Above all, only promise what you can realistically deliver.
Planning Ahead
A funeral plan ensures arrangements are in place, financially as well as for their funerals. It’s often a relief to avoid the burden of funeral arrangements for loved ones.
Often, simply having a candid discussion about death and dying is reassuring. It’s good to understand a loved one’s preferences … and know that they are aware of your choices.
Whether the discussion is about your own death or for a loved one … it’s good to talk and tackle the elephant in the room.
If you’d like to talk about funeral options with our friendly team, we’re here to help.
