After losing a loved one, special occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas can be especially difficult. Each of us is unique, dealing with grief in our own way. By choosing how to remember your loved one on special occasions, they can continue to be part of your life.
Some dates are personal, such as your anniversary with your loved one or their birthday. Others are public ‘events’ such as Christmas when the pressure to celebrate and spend time with family seems to be everywhere.
These specific times can often be a time of greater emotion and grief as well as reflection and dilemma … such as: “Should I be celebrating Christmas?” or “How do I mark my loved one’s birthday?”
Here are some ideas for remembering a loved one on special occasions:
Everyone is different and it’s important to acknowledge how you feel. Some people like the comfort of keeping their traditions on special occasions, such as Christmas. Others prefer to create new ways of celebrating. Some people don’t observe the first Christmas without their loved one. There is no right or wrong choice.
Lastly, remember that it’s ok to treat the day as any other if that’s what feels right to you. The important aspect is to take care of yourself and to share your plans and feelings with those closest to you.