A eulogy is an opportunity to remember the life of a person who has died and provide comfort to those who are mourning. It is read aloud during the funeral service.
Whilst there is no strict structure involved with preparing a eulogy, the following details are usually included:
- Introduction: Start with a brief introduction, introducing yourself and your relationship with the person who has died. You can also include your thoughts about them as part of your introduction.
- Personal Anecdotes: Share personal stories or experiences that highlight the personality, values and interests of the deceased person. This can include funny or inspiring memories.
- Memorable Qualities: Talk about the special qualities that made the person unique. Reflect on their kindness, compassion, sense of humour, determination or any other virtues that stood out to others.
- Achievements and Contributions: Highlight the accomplishments and contributions the person made during their lifetime. These can include their professional achievements and personal milestones, for example, involving family, hobbies and career as relevant.
- Impact on Others: Discuss how the person impacted the lives of those around them. Share how they inspired and influenced others, and how their presence made a difference in the lives of their family, friends, and community. You may also reflect on how the person influenced your life.
- Reflection and Inspiration: Share any inspirational messages, quotes, or life lessons that the person believed in and lived by.
- Closing: End the eulogy by expressing your final thoughts, feelings and how much the person will be missed. Some people choose to end a eulogy with a quote, a poem or a personal message.
It’s essential to be relevant and honest … to speak from the heart. You can ask others for their input or any memorable stories they would like included in the eulogy.
Before the funeral itself, practice reading the eulogy aloud. This helps you to feel more confident when reading it during the funeral service. Writing and reading the eulogy can be an emotional process and it’s acceptable to show your emotions during this time, from crying to laughing!
The team at Austin’s is here to help with guidance about the timing involved with funeral services and eulogies. If you’re arranging a funeral and writing a eulogy, please contact us with any queries.
